Gaining a greater understanding of human nature can take you a long way to gaining confidence as you have to deal with them. Human nature is motivated mainly by two elements, fear and love. Understanding how fear and love impact human behavior can equip you to becoming an expert in human relations. These two elements are the two most powerful forces that affect human nature.
Understanding people and their natures are not about thinking what they they should be or what we want them to be, it about seeing them as they are. That is not to say that should be our focus, but in order for us to deal skillfully and confidently with other people we must first understand want they are.
Most people are affected more by fear than love. Fear makes people self-interested. Because of fear people are more interested in themselves than they are interested in you. There are two things fear makes people, that causes them to be more interested in themselves others, they are insecurity and inferiority.
Insecurity is the feeling of the lack of security. It is the feeling that one has nothing to they can depend on. That insecurity creates self consciousness. That insecurity makes them more interested in themselves when it comes to others. If you think about it, you are the same way often.
Inferiority is the feeling of being less important or valuable. Like insecurity, inferiority makes a person self conscious. It is impossible to feel insecure and inferior and be confidence. Just by becoming confident you already will have an edge when dealing with other people.
Major companies have been gaining edge over people for decades by fueling their insecurities and inferiority mindsets. They sell to the public that if you do not buy our products you are less important or less valuable. They also sell to belong you have to have their products. Their whole marketing strategies centers around the concept that if you give them you money than can make you important and do not you are not important.
Love is different, it cures people of being so self interested. Love fuels courage. The first step to gaining confidence to dealing with other people is understanding that you are not the only one dealing with insecurity and inferiority. Fear shrinks your world, love expands and increases your world.
Helping people overcome their fears of dealing with other could make you a fortune. How much would you pay to be free of everything that makes you feel insecure or inferior. Be confident and help other people become confident and you will be successful in whatever you do.
Understanding that people are most interested in themselves and why is one of the first foundations of becoming confident and skillful when dealing with other people.