There are two great needs of the human soul. If you learn and respect these great needs you can become an expert at human relations. They are value and security. Those two need feed the wants of every human soul, which can be known as the three A’s, of human desire.
- The need for Acceptance
- The need for Approval
- The need for Appreciation
Acceptance
Every human on this beautiful planet wants to be accepted. We were created for a purpose. That purpose alone qualifies us to be accepted. The desire to be accepted is an universal desire. Acceptance is nutrition to the soul. No one takes pleasure in rejection. Rejection is painful to the soul.
Acceptance is not an agreement issue, it is a value issue. Accepting people should not be limited to those you agree with, but it your acceptance of others should be based on their value as human beings. You will never be able to win those or help those you reject. How could you ever help someone be better, if you do not accept who they are now.
When we reject people we disqualify ourselves from being a positive influence in there lives. Rejection is poison. Acceptance is food to the soul. Mastering the skill of accepting others is one of the greatest tools of dealing confidently with other people. There are two kinds of acceptance.
- Manipulative acceptance
- Wise acceptance
Manipulative acceptance is the accepting others with ill intent. This type of acceptance is based upon accepting others to primarily for personal gain or self interest. There is often time some type of bargain involved in the acceptance that benefits the person offering the acceptance the most.
Wise acceptance is the acceptance of others for there gain or mutual gain. Accept other people for there profit. Give the gift of wise acceptance and you will receive acceptance other people.
Approval
Approval is another universal desire of human nature. Along with wanting to be accepted, we all want the approval of others. The desire for approval is a stronger desire than the desire for acceptance. Approval deals more with what we do than who we are. Approval is more difficult to come by than acceptance.
A child wants to me the approval of his or her parents. Like acceptance, approval is a value issue. Although approval deals much more about what you do, it still deals with who you are. Acceptance and approval are like twins. If you master the art of both you also master the art of winning people.
Practice the art of finding things to approve in other people and you will deal more confidently with them and become more effective in your human relations.
Appreciation
The strongest desire of the three A’s is the need for appreciation. We all want to be appreciated. To appreciate means to raise in value of. Appreciation is the base way we can show people we value them. Appreciation is a show of esteem and honor. When we appreciate a person we raise them in value.
People are the most valuable thing on this planet. Letting them know how value they are through appreciation has a dynamic effect on the human soul. Want to be confident and skillful in dealing with other people learn and practice the art of showing appreciation.